Friday, 8 September 2017
What makes a relationship great is not perfection, or an endless bliss, it is being with someone you accept with all their issues, baggages and the special benefits that comes with a relationship; you enjoy all the good moments and find a way to deal with difficult situation.
You will accept your partner the way he/she is, never compare him/her to someone else and always wish every one could be like them and when there are difficulties in your relationship, you will know the best way to handle it and never talk down on you partner.“As a man you need to know that there are better ways to talk to your woman, better ways to express your desires”.
Below are 3 things you should never tell your woman:
It’s either me or XYZ: “A man who knows his place and recognises his importance would never have to make you pick between himself and your job, or your friends and at the same time, a wise woman would never push her man to the position where this will be his last resort”.
My ex did this differently: “Even if there’s something about your ex that you absolutely love, a particular way she did something that impressed you all the time, you can’t afford to express this to your new girl as you will be putting her in direct comparison with your ex, and letting her know that she came up short and no woman likes that, she won’t take that lightly with you so it is better to pass that message across more subtly and more codedly than this”.
Be more like XYZ: “If you love her, your criticisms are constructive and they will be about her, not about others because when you love a woman, you will wish everyone else were more like her”.
Category: Lifestyle News
Wednesday, 23 August 2017
A nutritious, well-balanced diet along with physical activity and refraining from smoking is the foundation of good health. Healthy eating includes consuming high-quality proteins, carbohydrates, heart-healthy fats, vitamins, minerals and water in the foods you take in while minimizing processed foods, saturated fats and alcohol.
Eating in this manner helps you maintain your body’s everyday functions, promotes optimal body weight and can assist in disease prevention.According to doctors, eating on time and in the right amount is highly required. There are several things that you should never do right after eating. These are:
According to scientists, a cigarette after a meal is extremely dangerous, and it is damaging the whole body, because it is, as they say, as if you smoke 10 cigarettes at once. Also, smoking particularly affects the irritation of the intestines.The digestive system works on the whole body, and nicotine binds with oxygen in the blood, because then it’s more easily absorbed. Scientists warn that a cigarette after a meal dramatically increases the risk of bowel cancer and lung cancer.
2. Drinking tea
When you drink tea after your meal (especially dinner), you let it interfere with digestion.This is because a chemical tannin is present in tea and coffee which interferes with iron absorption. Though the beverages are known to relieve mental and muscular fatigue, they should be consumed only in moderation.
Fruits are considered to be healthy but unfortunately their consumption after any meal (like lunch and dinner) is considered harmful. Eating fruits close to a meal, especially right after a larger meal and combine with other foods, it's held in the stomach too long along with other foods and will rot and ferment in the gut. If you experience indigestion, heartburn, burping and and other digestive discomforts and you blame on the meal - it could be the combination of the food, the fermentation with fruit that causes your upset stomach.
We have often told you to never go to sleep after food. According to the Massachusetts Institute of Technology, but there are good reasons for not sleeping right after a meal. While you’re napping, your body is hard at work digesting that last meal, and this can lead to problems ranging from indigestion, weight gain to a possible increased risk for a stroke.
5. Taking a Shower
When you bathe, your surface temperature increases according to the temperature of the water you use. When the water makes contact with your skin, your brain processes this change in body temperature as an immediate need to direct blood to your skin and bring your temperature back to normal. If you use cold water, your blood vessels dilate. As large volumes of blood in your skin dilate to dissipate the excess heat. This in turn causes more blood to flow in your skin, when the blood should actually flow to stomach to aid digestion.
It’s common to lose interest in s*x from time to time, and libido levels vary through life. It’s also normal for your interest not to match your partners at times. However, low libido for a long period of time may cause concern for some people. Low libido can sometimes be an indicator of underlying health conditions.
Here are a few potential causes of low libido in men.
Testosterone is an important male hormone. In men, it’s mostly produced in the testicles. Testosterone is responsible for building muscles and bone mass and stimulating sperm production. Your testosterone levels also factor into your s*x drive.
You’re considered to have low testosterone, or low T, when your levels fall below 300 to 350 nanograms per deciliter (ng/dL). When your testosterone levels decrease, your desire for s*x also decreases.
Decreasing testosterone is a normal part of aging. However, a drastic drop in testosterone can lead to decreased libido. Talk to your doctor if you think this might be an issue for you. You may be able to take supplements or gels to increase your testosterone levels.
Taking certain medications can lower testosterone levels, which in turn may lead to low libido. For example, blood pressure medications like ACE inhibitors and beta-blockers may prevent Release and erections.
If you’re experiencing these effects of low testosterone, talk to your doctor. They may advise you to switch medications.
Restless Legs Syndrome (RLS)
Restless legs syndrome (RLS) is the uncontrollable urge to move your legs. A study found that men with RLS are at higher risk for developing erectile dysfunction than those without RLS. Erectile dysfunction (ED) occurs when a man can’t have or maintain an erection.
In the study, researchers found that men who had RLS occurrences at least five times per month were about 50 percent more likely to get ED than men without RLS. Also, men who had RLS episodes more frequently were even more likely to become impotent.
Depression changes all parts of a person’s life. People with depression experience a reduced or complete lack of interest in activities they once found pleasurable, including s*x.
Also, low libido is a side effect of some antidepressants, especially selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs). Talk to your doctor if you’re taking antidepressants and you have a low libido. Your doctor might address your side effects by adjusting your dose or switching to another medication.
When you’re not feeling well due to the effects of a chronic health condition, such as chronic pain, s*x is likely low on your list of priorities. Certain illnesses, such as cancer, can reduce your sperm production counts since your body focuses on getting through the day.
If you’re experiencing a chronic illness, talk with your partner about ways to be intimate during this time. You may also consider seeing a marriage counselor or s*x therapist about your issues.
A study in The Journal of Clinical Endocrinology & Metabolism (JCEM) found that men with obstructive sleep apnea (OSA) experience lower testosterone levels. In turn, this leads to decreased s*xual activity and libido. In the study, researchers found that nearly half of the men who had severe sleep apnea also experience very low levels of testosterone during the night.
A more recent JCEM study found that men with low testosterone levels also had lower sleep efficiency. The study concluded that decreased levels of total testosterone are linked with less healthy sleep, particularly in older men.
Testosterone levels, which are linked to libido, are at their highest when men are in their late teens. Men generally notice a difference in their libido around ages 60 to 65, according to the Mayo Clinic.
In your older years, it may take longer to have orgasms, release, and become aroused. Your erections may not be as hard, and it may take longer for your man-hood to become erect. However, medications are available that can help treat these issues.
If you’re distracted by situations or periods of high pressure, s*xual desire may decrease. This is because stress can disrupt your hormone levels. Your arteries can narrow in times of stress. This narrowing restricts blood flow and potentially causes erectile dysfunction. A study in The Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease supported the notion that stress, separate from psychological symptoms and relationship quality, has a direct effect on s*xual problems.
Treating low libido often depends on treating the underlying issue. You may need to switch medications. If your low libido has psychological causes, you may need to visit a therapist for relationship counseling.
You can also take steps to boost your libido on your own. The following have the potential to increase your libido:
living a healthier lifestyle
getting enough sleep
practicing stress management
eating a healthier diet
Thursday, 17 August 2017
Love is so challenging – finding it, keeping it, and most difficult of all, getting back love from the person you’ve set your heart on.
Love is equal parts luck, chemistry, timing, and science. Yes, there’s science behind love; love isn’t just about finding somebody that you find attractive and settling down, it’s about compatibility and shared goals and values. However, there are some psychological tricks that you can use to get someone to fall in love with you.
No, we’re not telling you to totally change or to do something that isn’t comfortable for you, we’re just suggesting that you highlight some things that you’re probably doing anyway.So if you want to learn how get a guy to like you and eventually fall in love with you, here are 10 ways to use psychology to your advantage.
1. Make sure you’re the kind of woman he’s looking for. We all have a list (even if it’s not written down) of the qualities we want in a partner.
They may be superficial such as the color of their hair, or they may be set in stone such as a love of animals.
Obviously, there are some things on a list of must-haves that are negotiable. Make sure that you meet the criteria of what your potential mate wants by doing a little research and learning about their interests and background.
2. Find out what’s missing in his life and then fill it. People who are searching for partners generally look for similarities, but what they may not realize is that they also need someone with strengths that they don’t have, providing a balance. If your girl or guy is insecure and lacking on self-confidence, show them how confident and self-assured you are. They’ll be subconsciously attracted to you because you’re an example of how they’d like to be.
3. Be mysterious. Don’t tell the object of your affection every single thing about yourself on the first date. Give them small pieces of information so they’ll keep wanting more. Everybody loves a good mystery and if you don’t reveal all, it will keep your guy intrigued.
4. Make yourself available… but only up to a point. The more positive interactions they have with you, the more they’re going to want to spend time with you. But people don’t want what they can have too easily, so it’s good to be unavailable sometimes. Distance yourself without appearing too aloof and uninterested. You want to show them that you’re amazing and have a full life.
5. Don’t make it seem like you’re trying too hard. If you come off as desperate, you’re going to scare your potential partner away, and if you’re too persistent you can come off as too needy and obsessive. It’s OK to show that you’re interested but not that it’s all you think about. Play it cool.
6. Have mutual friends. If you share friends with the person that you’re in love with, it will not only give you all kinds of things to talk about but it will subconsciously let him know he can trust you. We’re wired to trust those that others can vouch for and this is one of the reasons so many people meet the love of their lives through mutual friends.
7. Mirror his actions. This seems a little creepy to me but it has been used for years with some success.
Mirroring is about connecting with your partner by staying in step with their actions. If they take a sip of their drink, you take a sip of your drink; if they lean in when telling a fascinating story, you lean in, too.
When you copy someone’s body movements it will lead them to believe that the two of you are in sync and they won’t be able to resist feeling attracted to you.
8. Repeat things without being boring. If during a conversation you mention something that seems to captivate his interest, make it a regular topic of conversation. This continual conversation will stick in the subconscious part of their mind and will be another way for them to associate you with someone who’s intelligent and a great conversationalist.
9. Do things that allow for people to think of you as a positive person. When people hear your name do they think of you as a fun and happy person, or do they associate you with someone who is extremely negative and unpleasant? We all know that each of us has some negative attributes but that shouldn’t be your overall image. The person you want to fall in love with you is bound to ask around about you. You want people to let them know that you’re fun, adventurous, honest, and trustworthy. Do volunteer work or pay for the person behind you in Starbucks.
10. Let them know you love kids, animals, or both. When we think of what kind of person we’d like to be in a long-term relationship with, we all want someone who is nurturing and loving. By showing them that you care for others, especially pets and children, you’ll be seen as a suitable partner.
Go ahead and give these suggestions a try. They might not work, or they may surprise you and get you closer to the one you love.
Wednesday, 9 August 2017
Rice is, without a doubt, the most delicious type of grass to grow in a swamp. That’s not praise to be given lightly. As long as humans have lived in houses, we’ve eaten rice.
There are as many types of rice as there are places to grow it, from the familiar, highly processed white rice to whole-grain brown, all the way through red to black wild rices grown in Asia.
However, the rise of convenience culture in response to rapidly diminishing supplies of free time mean more and more people reach adulthood without internalizing recipes and cooking techniques.
Does that describe you? Welcome, you’re among friends. Allow me to share some mistakes I’ve learned to avoid.
Choosing the wrong tools.
Ultimately, much of this advice will boil down to “your technique and tools should depend on what you’re cooking,” but there are a few grains of wisdom to glean when it comes to equipment, most importantly, your choice of pot.
A pot with a thick bottom will better retain and distribute heat. Thick bottoms are crucial for boiling rice in the absorption method, where the formation of steam pockets play a key role in cooking.
Not washing your rice.
Many advocates of rice-washing claim that industrial byproducts of the milling process (like talc) remain on the finished product. The claim is that pre-washing helps remove excess starch and any undesirable leftovers. Most domestically processed rice is free from talc, but imported strains like basmati may be processed with it. While flavored and enriched rice blends popular with Western grocers certainly don’t need pre-washing (you’re paying for convenience and flavor, after all!) a rinse or two of cold water will yield fluffier, more distinct grains.
If you feel so moved, grab a fine mesh strainer and pop 1 cup of rice under the faucet. When the water draining from the grains is clear, you’re good to go. The only exception would be those cooking risotto or sushi rice, who crave that starchy goodness.
Bad Burner Planning.
Here’s a tip to remember the next time you deal with any quick-cooking starch: The surface of electric burners holds a great amount of heat, increasing the length of time a pot remains boiling after the burner temperature is reduced. To avoid this, heat a second burner to a low simmer as the pot begins to boil on the first.
Those lucky souls blessed with propane burners don’t need to worry, being well familiar with the gas’s whip-fast response time.
Not pre-soaking aromatic rices
Aromatic rices, like basmati and almond rice, should be pre-soaked in order to preserve the oils responsible for their signature aromas. Cooking destroys these oils, so in order to minimize cooking time, pre-soak the grains in more water than you’ll cook them in. This expedites cooking time by an average of 20 percent, resulting in restaurant-grade bouquets.
Cooking Too Hot.
Cooking too fast causes the grains to burst open like a butterflied steak, which not only releases starch, but also ruins the texture of your meal.
Even if you’re aiming for porridge or pudding, ruptured grains are to be avoided. Automatic rice boilers are designed to only just reach boiling temperature, so anything past that is too much.
Lifting the lid while it cooks.
If you’re boiling rice, don’t even think of lifting the lid as it cooks. Not only will lifting the lid lengthen the cooking time as it releases pressure and steam, but it can also seriously mess up the finished product. When you lift the lid, the carefully calculated rice-water ratio is thrown of which will result in dry and under-cooked rice. Unless you’re adding seasoning or checking how much water remains, leave it alone. Let the rice cook; it knows what it’s doing.
Stirring the rice.
Another huge mistake many people make is stirring the rice as it boils. Unless you’re making risotto, don’t touch the rice while it’s cooking.
Stirring rice while it’s in the pot causes starch to activate and prevents the formation of steam pockets; in layman’s terms, it’s going to make your rice mushy.
While that smooth creamy texture is coveted in risotto, you want to avoid it when making regular rice.
Not adding enough water.
Many people don’t use enough water which can leave the rice dry and undercooked. The amount of water needed to perfectly cook different types of rice varies slightly, so you should do some research about how much water to add before cooking. If you’re still unsure whether you’ve added enough water, you can always try using the knuckle method. Put your rice in the pot and fill it with water. When you rest your finger on top of the rice, the water should come up to the top of your first knuckle.
Cooking with unsalted water.
Popular opinion holds that salt makes water boil faster, but the difference isn’t really noticeable. But one important thing the salt does is interfere with the process by which starches link and connect, becoming gelatin. Many professional chefs prefer to salt their water to near-oceanic levels of salinity. It’s your kitchen, so go hog wild.
In addition to preventing gelatinization, salt also has the interesting byproduct of being delicious. Adding salt to your rice water is important for getting your rice right.
Cooking unseasoned food.
Melting butter in the water also helps with flavor. A bay leaf, dried peppers, citrus zest, dried mushroom slices, nuts, even a cinnamon stick will add depth and color to the rice. The boiling water will help both rehydrate and unlock essential oils in rugged spices like cinnamon and bay, and the flavorful pepper innards will easily separate from the thick outer skin without a lot of chopping or dicing.
And, hey, why not cook with stock instead of water? Splash a little bit of wine in there every now and then? That’ll help with the existential horror and boredom of watching rice cook. Yay, wine!
Substituting different types of rice
You wouldn’t swap apples for potatoes and still call it apple pie. So why would you use short grains in place of long wild rice? Different rices have different attributes, and they behave differently when cooked. It’s not that it’ll negatively affect the taste so much as it’ll affect the texture and consistency.
Not Letting It Sit After Cooking.
When done correctly, fresh cooked rice will be drier on the top than on the bottom. It’s crucial that the rice be allowed to sit off the heat for at least 5-30 minutes, in order for moisture to evenly distribute itself through the dish. Cooking is hard work! Fluffing the rice before that time will result in a sticky fork and clumps of inconsistently moist rice.
Treating all rice the same.
Not all rice is created equal. There are thousands of varieties of rice grown throughout the world, and you can’t cook each one the same way.
Do some research before you fire up your stove. Brown rice, for example, requires slightly more water than white rice. Whether your brown rice is short-grain or long-grain will also affect the amount of water needed; a cup of short-grain rice needs a quarter of a cup more water than long-grain rice.
So, try to avoid these mistakes when preparing your rice meals so that you'll be able to get the best nutrients out of your diet.
Saturday, 5 August 2017
Breakfast is the most important meal of the day. However, most people either avoid eating breakfast altogether, thinking that it will help them lose weight or because they don't feel like eating, while others consume the wron kind of foods.
You might wonder why you should watch what you eat at breakfast if you are not trying to lose or gain weight. Here's why: If you continu to have an unhealthy breakfast everyday, it increases your risks of hear attack, as well as of contracting diabetes. Breakfast is called so, as we 'break' our 'fast' of almost 7 to 8 hours. What you eat for breakfast, is the first thing that goes into your body after a gap of an entire night.
Therefore, it is absolutely essential to pay attention to your first meal of the day. Given below are some foods that are considered 'normal' or even healthy to be consumed as breakfast, but aren't quite so:-
Wheat bread - Once wheat bread gets digested, it instantly turns to sugar and raises your insulin levels. It would be al right to have bread if you have a very active lifestyle, but not if you have a sedentary office job. Thus, bread does you no good. Wheat is almost always contaminated with mycotoxins, which can lead to contraction of diseases like osteoporosis, arthritis and allergies.
Bakery products - These include muffins, cupcakes, waffles, doughnuts, as well as beacon, ham and sausage. An average doughnut has about 200 calories, and the more sugar coated, th more unhealthy it is. You would have to walk for an hour just to burn these calories. All these foods lack in vitamins, minerals and proteins which are vital to keep up your energy level throughout the day.
Processed meat lik ham and bacon are high in fat and sodium, especially sodium nitrate. Constant consumption of these can lea to heart problems and sodium nitrate intake augments your risk of cancer.
'Healthy' and 'fat-free' food - Although lot of packaged food is claimed to be healthy, it is quite otherwise. Healthy breakfast cereals for example, have sugars and salts in some or the other form, which can increase your blood sugar and cholesterol level. Besides, anything that has a long shelf life, is loaded with preservatives, which are harmful for your body in the long run. Even packaged orange juice is unhealthy, as nutritious juice, from real oranges, and without preservatives cannot last for more than two or three days. Do not be deceived by the 'fat-free' label on most products. When fat i removed from food products, some of the flavor also has to be removed, and manufacturers often add sugar, salt an artificial flavors to make up for that. Besides, while consuming fat makes yo feel full, because these are fat-free products, you might actually end up eating more till you feel satiated.
Fried food - Fried foods are high in calories, cholesterol and fat. They should be avoided at all costs. When you eat fried foods first thing in the morning, they tend to deposit against the walls of your stomach and intestines, and make it harder for your digestive system to assimilate food throughout the day.
Pasteurized milk - Raw milk or organic skimmed milk is one of the best and healthiest foods you can have. It provides calcium, vitamins and protein to your body and helps you to feel full. But pasteurization of milk destroys beneficial bacteria, enzymes, protein and vitamin content and helps the growth of pathogens. Therefore, it is much better to opt for organic skimmed milk.
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Tuesday, 25 July 2017
Your body might be trying to tell you something.Stress manifests in a multitude of ways. Some of them are emotional symptoms, like moodiness and irritability, and others may mask themselves as physical issues.
The problem with this physiological phenomenon is that you may simply chalk these issues up as something harmless. Not only that, data shows stress is continually on the rise, making the problem more of a byproduct of everyday life rather than a health complication that needs to be controlled. But there are major consequences if you don’t address your stress: It can lead to heart problems, sleep disturbances, depressive symptoms and more.
Needless to say, it’s important to determine whether you’re experiencing issues with your emotional health. Can’t tell if you’re feeling high-strung or not? Here are some of the ways your body may be telling you that you’re stressed:
1. Your muscles are throbbing.
Strained neck? Tight shoulders? It may not be due to that new workout or a poor pillow. You carry a lot of tension in your muscles when you’re stressed out and that can appear as strains or injuries. For men, lower back pain can be a common side effect of stress and women typically experience issues in their upper backs, Reader’s Digest recently reported. Can someone say “massage time?”
2. You have a headache.
Speaking of tension, you can also collect it in your noggin. A stress headache, that dull, aching pain that feels like a band around your head, happens when you’re feeling high strung. Over-the-counter pain relievers, like ibuprofen, may help ease the pain or stress exercises like meditation or yoga may also provide some relief.
3. You’re thirsty.
When you’re feeling anxious, it can cause your adrenal glands ― small glands located at the top of your kidneys ― to pump out stress hormones into your body. That adrenal fatigue may lead to a fluctuation in other hormones, too, including a reduction in compounds that can affect your electrolyte and fluid levels. So if you’re feeling parched, your stress might be to blame.
4. You’re sweating.
If you’ve ever had to give a presentation through clammy hand or damp underarms, you know exactly what we’re talking about. Excessive perspiration due to stress, which known as hyperhidrosis, can affect anyone who is experiencing a little more anxiety than usual. Try some stress-controlling tricks like taking deep breaths or listening to soothing music to help bring those levels down in the immediate moment.
5. Your hair is falling out.
Shedding could be more than just a mild irritant. There are a few conditions that cause hair loss due to excessive stress: Telogen effluvium, which can cause hair to fall out over time just through simply brushing or washing it; Trichotillomania, which is a condition that leads to hair pulling; and Alopecia areata, where the body’s immune system begins attacking hair follicles. Talk to your doctor if you’re seeing more stand loss than usual.
6. You’re running to the bathroom a lot.
If you’re experiencing stomach issues like cramping or a frequent urge to go to the bathroom, you might want to consider getting that stress in check. Anxiety can cause digestion issues, as Everyday Health points out. Here’s how:
When stress activates the “flight or fight” response in your central nervous system, digestion can shut down because your central nervous system shuts down blood flow, affects the contractions of your digestive muscles, and decreases secretions needed for digestion.
7. You’re not feeling too hot.
Sniffles and stress go hand-in-hand. Research shows stress can make you more susceptible to issues like the common cold. Not only that, some chronic conditions like migraines can flair up following a stressful period. This phenomenon, known as “the let down effect,” occurs once your body finally relaxes.
When you’re stressed, your body releases cortisol (AKA the stress hormone). The hormone protects your body from pain in the moment (hello, adrenaline!) but as soon as it calms down, it returns your body to equilibrium, which could set the stage for pain, experts say.
8. You have tooth troubles.
Tooth clenching or grinding can happen without you being aware of it, even the middle of the night when you’re fast asleep. And the main culprit ― you guessed it ― is stress. Not only can grinding or clenching lead to jaw pain, it can also put you at risk for chipping or damaging those pearly whites. Dentists recommend relaxation techniques and wearing a mouth guard when you sleep if it gets severe.
9. You see a different number on the scale.
Minor weight changes aren’t a huge deal (after all, we can fluctuate back and forth in just one day). But if you’re experience a bigger rise or dip, something might be up. Changes in appetite is one of the more common signs of stress and could signal that it’s something to address.
To control the risk of weight changes, experts suggest partaking in a healthy diet, getting a good amount of sleep and exercising. Not only will they assist with weight, both moves are inherently good for curbing stress. Win-win.
10. Your memory is foggy.
Pay attention if you’ve misplaced your keys one too many times. Spotty recall has been linked to excessive amounts of stress, CNN reported. Chronic stress can reduce spatial memory, the part of the mind that helps you remember locations, objects and other more mundane items.
Eat these to (naturally) turn up the heat.
Want a really romantic dinner? Sure, candles and soft music are nice, but what you and your man nosh on could truly take things to another level. The following (healthy!) foods may actually affect hormone levels, brain chemistry, and energy, heightening arousal and s*x drive.
While there arent double-blind studies proving the aphrodisiac properties of these foods, there is plenty of anecdotal evidence suggesting they really help, so why not work in one (or more) on your next date night.
Youre not alone if those fleshy green spears remind you of …well, you know. This veggies phallic appearance no doubt has something to do with its legendary aphrodisiac status, but the goods are inside, too. Asparagus is rich in vitamin B6 and folate, both of which can boost arousal and climax. And it also boasts vitamin E, which stimulates s*x hormones in both men and women.
Energy and a healthy libido are crucial for great s*x, and avocados can give you both. Theyre loaded with minerals, monounsaturated fats (the good kind that protect the heart and lower cholesterol), and vitamin B6—all of which help keep your energy and s*x drive up. Theyre also a top source of omega-3 fatty acids, which naturally boost your mood, making you more likely to feel ready for bedroom action. For more on avocados health benefits, check out“The Amazing Power of Avocados.”
Chile peppers can really spice things up—and not just in your mouth—thanks to capsaicin, a chemical thats been shown to induce the release of endorphins in the brain, which creates a feeling of euphoria. The potential payoff? Enhanced foreplay and hotter s*x.
This sweet has long been linked with love and s*x for good reason. It contains tryptophan, which helps the body produce serotonin, a natural feel-good chemical that may play a role in s*xual arousal. Chocolate also offers a hit of phenylethylamine, a stimulant thought to contribute to that lovey-dovey feeling. So, go ahead, indulge a little!
This candy (sold conveniently in, um, whips) is thought to mimic the effects of estrogen and progesterone, critical hormones for normal reproductive and s*xual function and response. Eating it may help you get in the mood—and stay that way more often. Plus, enjoying this candy may reduce symptoms of PMS, a real perk both in and outside the bedroom. But note: Dont settle for just any old licorice-flavored candy. Be sure to buy a variety that contains real licorice-root extract.
Its not the slippery feel or the singular taste of oysters that make them a sexy superfood. Its zinc, which oysters are loaded with. The mineral helps the body produce testosterone, a hormone critical in regulating womens and mens libido and s*xual function. Research suggests that zinc can improve sperm count and swimming ability, and increase s*xual potency in men. (No wonder legend has it that Casanova sucked down several oysters a day!) For women, zinc may help ovaries—the source of estrogen, progesterone, and some testosterone—stay healthy, keeping you primed for bedroom action.
My name is Funke, a 28-year-old lady. I am heart broken at the moment » and I swear I will do something stupid if care is not taken.
Imagine dating a man for four years and planning for your marriage for six months only for the man to get married to another woman two weeks to your supposed wedding.
This is what happened to me and now, I want to take the laws into my hands and deal with Dele and his new wife for putting me through such shame and disgrace.
I met Dele during my service year in Ogun State. I had just come out of a very bad relationship and was not ready to go into another one but after Dele kept assuring me that he would be there for me, I had to give him a chance.
In truth, he was very patient with me, doing all he could to get my mind off the pains I was going through when Alex dumped me for another woman.
Dele worked in Abuja and only came to see me once a month but the relationship soon became very strong and he introduced me to his family members and his friends who all seemed to accept me.
I also introduced him to my family as my fiance and my parents were very happy that I would soon settle down. After I finished my service and got a job in Lagos, Dele proposed to me and I could not have been happier.
But the only draw back was that he did not want me to move over to Abuja because he felt the cost of living in the Federal Capital was astronomical. He said when we got married, I would move to Abuja.
I visited him as much as I could manage and he often came to Lagos whenever he had the chance. All the time I visited him, I never noticed him with any woman and I never suspected he could be cheating on me.
Then in December of 2016, we fixed our wedding for May and we began planning for it in earnest. My parents were beside themselves with joy and mother made sure it would be the wedding of the century as she bought 'Aso Ebi' for all her friends and club members.
In April, our wedding invitation cards were out. My friends too did not spare any expense as they wanted the wedding to be one in town. I began noticing that Dele was becoming withdrawn and his visits reduced drastically.
He blamed this on the pressure of work and tight schedules but since we would soon get married, I did not mind his infrequent visits.
But after he had stayed away for two months and was always evasive when I called, I became worried. Two weeks to our wedding, Dele had not come and there were still things to do.
I decided to go to Abuja so that we could put finishing touches to the preparations. I did not tell him I was coming because I was very angry at him and had prepared to give him a piece of my mind.
I took the last flight from Lagos and got to Abuja at about 6:30 pm and took an airport taxi to his house. I knew he would be home by then. I was still boiling when I banged on his door but to my shock, the door was opened by a pregnant woman.
I thought I was in the wrong place and told the woman I was there to see Dele. The woman just looked at me with disdain and went back inside. Shortly after, Dele came out and was also surprised to see me.
Before I could say anything, he asked what I was doing there and why I did not call him to say I was coming. I asked him if it was a crime to visit my husband without calling him.
That was when the woman came out again and asked who was my husband. I was confused and looked at Dele for an explanation but he told me I should go to a hotel and spend the night and he would come the next day to explain everything to him.
I told him I wanted an explanation there but it was the woman who spoke out that they got married at a registry just a week earlier and showed the ring on her finger as well as the pregnancy.
It was when Dele began to tell me how sorry he was that I fainted only to wake up in a hospital later.
It is now two months since the incident and while my family and friends have been trying all they can to help me get over the heart break, I will not rest until I avenge myself.
Dele and his stupid wife will surely suffer for what they have done to me, I swear on my life.
Sunday, 9 July 2017
In the 21st century, the average life expectancy in the U.S. is just over 86 years for women, while men can subtract two years from that number for a life expectancy of 84.
But for the first time in more than a decade, the life expectancy in the U.S. dropped last year.
It’s too early to identify all of the causes behind the fall in the number of years we can expect to live involve or to predict if the trend will continue.
But it does illustrate the need to take your health into your own hands and do all that you can to live longer and healthier now.
So, here are a eight easy, proven ways to extend both the quantity and quality of your life:
1. Go nuts
You may have heard that eating nuts is healthy but did you know those tasty little treats can lengthen your years on the planet?
That’s right, according to one study, tracking the lifestyle of Seventh-Day Adventists, a group known for their longevity, people who ate nuts 5 days a week or more, lived on average 2.9 years longer than people who avoided nuts.
Why do nuts help you live longer — and healthier? Researchers believe nuts help prevent diseases like cancer, diabetes and cardiovascular disease because they tame the inflammation abomination.
Just 20 grams of nuts per day (roughly a handful) can:
◆Cut your risk of coronary heart disease by nearly 30 percent.
Cut your risk of cancer by 15 percent.
◆Cut your risk of dying from respiratory disease by 50 percent.
◆Cut your risk of dying from diabetes by 40 percent.
◆Cut your risk of premature death by 22 percent.
2. Turn off your television
In an eight-year study, researchers in Spain have found that you can increase your longevity with a simple wrist motion. Using only one hand.
The wrist motion: Turn off your television.
The research that looked at the lifestyle habits of more than 13,000 people during eight years found that watching TV for three hours or more daily doubled the risk of premature death during the study.
“Television viewing is a major sedentary behavior and there is an increasing trend toward all types of sedentary behaviors,” says researcher Miguel Martinez-Gonzalez at the University of Navarra in Pamplona, Spain. “Our findings are consistent with a range of previous studies where time spent watching television was linked to mortality.”
The risk of death was doubled for people who reported watching three or more hours of TV each day compared to folks who watched an hour or less.
3. Get social
Did you know that if you accept all your Facebook friend requests, you’ll probably live longer?
In fact, scientists who studied Facebook activity for more than a decade say that people who have strong social media networks and receive multiple friend requests are less likely to die.
According to the researchers, Facebook users who accept more friendships increase their life expectancy but the same doesn’t hold true for users who initiate more friend requests.
And, the risk of death was lowest for people who had high levels of offline social interaction, with moderate levels of online time…
Meaning, while spending time with your virtual friends can help, it’s very important to have real world friends to spend time with and talk to. An analysis of available research shows feeling lonely and socially isolated increases your risk of having a stroke and developing coronary artery disease.
4. Think positive
Having a positive outlook on aging could be one of the biggest determinants of your life expectancy.
In fact, according to a Yale University study, having a positive view of the aging process can extend your life longer than lowering your blood pressure and cholesterol, exercise, maintaining a healthy weight or even giving up smoking.
In the study, those with a positive outlook lived more than 7 years longer than people who had negative views of aging. Try these happiness-building techniques to boost yours!
5. Go outside
If you spend too much time around noise and pollution the way we typically do, your body — especially each individual cell — ages faster.
If you only spend time in the kind of urban landscape that’s so common in today’s world, your cells are likely to be a shocking 12 years older than the cells of a person dwelling in a more natural, relaxed setting.
A study at the University of Minnesota shows that green, plant-filled areas that also have lakes, rivers or oceans, can help you age more healthfully into middle-age and beyond.
For optimal health of your cells, here are a few recommendations from the researchers:
When dealing with your health as you age, don’t merely consider your physical body. Take a holistic approach that includes your social and mental well-being. Interact with friends and loved ones often.
Get outside every day, even if it’s just a walk down the block.
Make spending time in a natural setting a priority. Sit in a park.
Listen to water rushing in a stream or fountain. Get friendly with your neighborhood trees.
The message in all this research is that you shouldn’t let your house, or apartment, become a prison. Get out and live a little. Your cells will thank you, and you’ll stay younger for much longer.
6. Jog for seven minutes a day
There’s a group of people in the U.S. who enjoy a longer life expectancy than the rest of us. Spend less than 10 minutes a day doing what they do and you can increase your odds of living longer, too.
The folks who live longer are runners. And even if you only jog for about seven minutes a day (That’s right: only seven minutes!), you can add about three years to your life expectancy and significantly shrink your chances of dying from heart disease.
A study at Iowa State that examined the health habits of more than 55,000 people for close to 15 years found that during the study, runners were 45 percent less likely to succumb to strokes and heart disease than people who never put on running shoes.
According to researcher DC (Duk-chul) Lee, runners enjoy this benefit no matter how far they run every day and even if they never jog faster than 10 minute miles.
7. Go spicy
Do you like spicy food? If so, go for it! It turns out that those who like it hot live longer.
A study at the Larner College of Medicine at the University of Vermont found that people that regularly eat hot red chili peppers reduce their chance of dying by 13%.
But, if hot peppers aren’t your thing, try a supplement containing capsaicin, the active component in peppers to get the same benefits.
Plus, there are many ways different spices can promote good health. Check out this handy infographic for several!
8. Get or Stay Married
Did you know that marriage decreases your risk of dying? And, having never been married gives you one of the highest mortality risks.
In fact, studies show that married couples generally outlive their divorced, widowed or unmarried counterparts.
And, if you do get sick, being married increases both your chances and speed of recovery.
One more thing… if you need an excuse to spice things up, s*xual energy does positive things for your lifespan too!
Category: Lifestyle News.
Tuesday, 4 July 2017
Different females, of course, find different things attractive but there are a few things besides the regulars such as height, lips, and muscles that they secretly admire in a man.
Some of which guys themselves don’t even think anyone pays attention to. These things might seem freaky to some and extremely weird to others but it turns most females on nonetheless.
This shouldn’t come as a surprise because veiny forearms represent muscles and hard work. Women subconsciously search for a man who can protect and yes in this day and age where women are becoming more independent, there’s still a part of them that find strong men extremely attractive.
Unkempt Facial hair
The “I’m too tired to care” attitude that the unkempt beard portrays entices so many women. Be it a stubble or a full grown beard. Women find any form of facial hair extremely attractive.
The Happy Trail
This is the trail of hair that starts at just below the navel and goes all the way down…we know where it leads and we’re happy to follow.
Now almost every woman I know finds any type of scar unbelievably arousing. Scars are rugged, masculine, exciting and very hot.
I’m talking about fresh sweat. Straight out of the gym sweat or sweat from doing any form of manual labour. Immediate sweat not the kind that’s been on you for a couple of hours or more. Sweat contains pheromones (scented sex hormones) that attract women and make them want to make you sweat more but for them this time.
Women also love men’s natural scent or any cologne that is particular to their man. That’s why we’re always taking their hoodies and shirts. If a guy goes to visit his girl and after he leaves her sheets smell like him she will literally sit there and smell it for as long as she can. Weird but true.
Everyone knows that guys love checking out women’s butts what people don’t know is that it works both ways. Ladies also love to see how good the pants fit guys. I mean what else are we meant to look at when they walk away?
Category: Lifestyle Update.
Wednesday, 21 June 2017
Humans are the only living beings in the world who have sex not only for procreation but also for pleasure. Moreover, as numerous studies have shown, sex is also one of the most effective ways of preventing and treating certain diseases, even mental ones.
How sexual relationships better our health
Sex prevents brain diseases.
sex can be beneficial for health, as in the process of sexual intercourse, a prolactin hormone is produced, which forms new cells in the brain and raises the mood. Thus, regular sex helps you avoid different brain diseases.
Sex can prevent diabetes.
If a person doesn’t relieve his/her sexual tension, the production of insulin in his/her body decreases. climax stabilizes the work of pancreas that produces this hormone. That’s why some experts consider sex a good way of preventing type II diabetes.
Sex relieves pain.
Right before a person reaches climax, the level of oxytocin in his/her blood rises fivefold. This hormone leads to the formation of endorphins, which relieve various types of pain, especially the one people with arthritis and migraine experience. Having a regular climax, a woman almost never suffers from menstrual pain because of the increased estrogen production in her body.
Sex and our mental health.
Sex increases intelligence
Sex makes a person smarter and gives a confidence boost. This happens due to the development of adrenaline and cortisol. The increase of their amount in our body activates the division of gray matter cells. Therefore, people who regularly have sex, not only increase sexuality but also enhance their mental abilities. Also, devising new
sex positions develops your imagination.
Sex works as a sedative.
Another positive effect of sex on health is associated with the development of the above-mentioned hormones: people, who have an active sex life, rarely suffer from depression and insomnia. This psychological factor forms during mutual caresses, when sensations are transmitted along the nerve endings to the pleasure center of the brain. As a result, a person feels rested. Apart from this, sex also relaxes, reduces anxiety, and relieves stress, due to the relaxation of the muscles that occurs during climax.
How sexual relationships affect longevity.
Sex strengthens the immune system.
Regular sexual life greatly reduces your chances to catch flu and cold, as all the systems of your body come to normal and work more actively, becoming capable of resisting various infections. Active muscle training normalizes the work of the bladder. In men, the regular work of the prostate prevents the development of its inflammation and completely excludes any risks of impotence.
Sex prolongs youth.
Regular sexual activity leads to the more intensive functioning of the endocrine glands, which promotes their rejuvenation, prolonging youth. So a passionate night of love doesn’t only bring a good mood or help you impress a Ukrainian girl you met on a business trip to Kiev but also makes you a bit younger.
Sex helps our body rejuvenate.
Having a regular sexual life, both men and women feel much better and look much younger due to sex hormones, which actively spread through the body, cleaning the skin, opening pores, and fighting acne. It has been experimentally proved that on average, a woman, who has an active sex life, looks 10 years younger than other women of her age. Besides, her body has much fewer wrinkles. It’s all about the increased release of estrogen, which enhances the ability of cells to regenerate (restore).
Considering all that was mentioned above, it’s important to remember that your sexual health will get back to normal only if you have sex with your loved one and your sex life is stable.
Category: Lifestyle News.
Tuesday, 13 June 2017
When you start thinking that he/ she may be the one , make sure you ask these ten questions before you tie the knot.
#1 : Do We Care about Each Other as Good Friends Do?
When you’re getting serious about someone, don ' t ask : “ Are we in love ?” The question to first ask instead is: “Are we becoming good friends?”
“ Being in love ” often means infatuation , romance, and high chemistry – things that are essentially selfish. This type of “ love ” is not a good reason to get married, but friendship is. Friendship is not selfish. Real love is about giving to and caring about another person ’s life. As Shaya Ostrov says in his book, The Inner Circle , "I ’ m watching you, hearing you, paying attention to you. I ’ve put it all together and have arrived at the conclusion that you and your life mean something to me ." That ’s why the essence of real love is friendship
In a Jewish wedding ceremony , the bride and groom are given seven blessings . Not once but twice , we bless the couple that they should become “ beloved friends .” Make sure you’re friends first and then lovers . A lover who is not your friend can easily hurt you. A friend who is your lover will never hurt you. And if they do, they will make every effort to repair the hurt , just like you do with your best friends. Friends care about each others ' happiness and well-being .
#2 : Are We Emotionally Honest and Vulnerable with Each Other ?
Two people who cannot be emotionally open with each other can never have true intimacy and love . When we share our feelings with another we connect and feel close to that person .
We tend to be afraid to share what we feel because expressing it makes us vulnerable ; it ’s dangerous . With the person you’ re considering marrying you must be sure you feel safe .
How do you know if the two of you are emotionally open and honest ? The next time you have a conversation with your partner, ask him or her, “What do you feel about me right now?” or, “How does what I just said make you feel ?” If you can communicate like this with each other consistently, you have the potential for building an intimate relationship .
#3 : Do We Consistently Reach Win /Win Resolutions To Our Problems ?
To get married, you must be sure you have great communication. The reason is that marriage is nothing but problems ! I know this doesn ’t sound very romantic , but it ’s very realistic. Couples often mistake good chemistry for good communication. Just because you can talk for hours on the phone and feel very connected , doesn’ t mean you have good communication. The only way you know if you have good communication is when you have problems . When there is a disagreement of any kind, small or large, this is when you find out how good or how bad your communication is. The essence of good communication is that you can consistently reach win -win solutions to your problems and disagreements. This means when you are finished talking , both of you feel good about the solution . There are no bad feelings on either side.
Problems that don ’ t get fully resolved turn into resentments . And when resentments build, love departs. The problem is not the problem . The communication about the problem is the problem .
#4 : Do We Take Care of Each Other ’ s Needs ?
One of the most important principles of marriage is : If it ’s important to you, it’ s important to me . Taking care of each other ’s needs is about wanting to give each other pleasure. Being a giver is probably the most important character trait to have for getting married. People are naturally takers . It takes a great deal of effort to become a genuine giver . Giving in order to get something back is being a taker.
An important question to ask yourself is, “ Do I enjoy giving to this person or do I find it burdensome ?” Gary Chapman in his book, The Five Love Languages, suggests that each of us has a dominant love language or emotional need that makes us feel loved when another “ speaks” that language to us . They are : gifts, quality time, acts of service, words of affirmation , and physical touch . What is your partner’ s love language ? Do you enjoy taking care of this need? Giving builds love . Taking destroys it .
#5 : Do We Admire And Respect Each Other ?
We need to respect and admire the person we marry. We respect a person ' s good character , meaningful aspirations and goals he/ she is committed to , and the good deeds he/ she has done , not the way he/ she looks.
How do you talk to each other? If you truly respect someone, you talk to that person with respect and dignity . Do you criticize or put each other down? Are you patient or impatient with each other ? Do you make jokes about the other person in front of others and then try to cover it by saying, “ I was only joking ”?
One of the biggest ways that couples demonstrate a lack of respect for each other is by playing games . Playing games is immature and childish. Mature people who respect each other don ’t play games . They are consistently up front, open , and honest .
#6 : For the Man: Are You Ready to Take Responsibility for a Wife and Family ?
When my three sons told me they wanted to get married, the first question I asked each of them was , “ Are you ready to take on the responsibility of taking care of a wife and family?" If you' re not ready to be fully responsible, you' re not ready to get married. For a man marriage isn’ t about getting his needs met . It ’s about taking on responsibility and being a giver . Judaism understands that the essence of being a man is to give and provide . Boys are takers ; men are givers . Are you ready to be a man?
The strongest need of a woman is to be cherished . The three A ’s of cherishing a woman are : Attention , Affection , and Appreciation . Neglect destroys a woman’s spirit . Making your wife feel loved and cherished is not just a nice idea; it ' s a Torah obligation .
#7 : For the Woman : Do You Believe in Him ?
Your man needs your respect and support . He needs you to believe in him. Men today are under so much pressure and so many demands are being made of them. The one place he doesn ’t need to feel more pressure is at home . He needs you to believe that he is trying hard to provide for you and the needs of the family. The cruelest thing a wife can do is nag her husband. If he’ s a good man and he ’s trying hard, give him your love , not your list of demands. So before you commit your life to him, make sure you don ’t have any hidden agenda or unexpressed expectations . Be up front . And if you decide to be his wife , then be his friend as well . Don ’ t turn on him .
#8 : Do I Trust This Person Completely ?
The emotional foundation of love is trust. Without complete trust, you can’t build love . (I highly recommend Dr.John Gottman’ s new book , The Science of Trust. ) The essential issue of trust is captured in the question, “Are you there for me ?” A solid marriage is built on solid trust. Can I trust that you will provide a safe home for my feelings and needs? Can I be sure I can be vulnerable with you? Am I afraid you will abandon, reject , or shame me ?
A key way to build trust is by respecting and validating another person ’s feelings. Listening to another person ’s feelings is one of the greatest acts of kindness we can perform . If you don ’t trust each other with your feelings , think twice about getting married.
#9 : Do We Want the Same Things Out of Life?
One of two things happens in a marriage: People either grow together or grow apart. Spiritual compatibility is one of the best ways to insure you’ ll grow together . This means you are on the same page in terms of your values , priorities, and life goals . Rabbi Noah Weinberg , of blessed memory , would often teach that life’s most important question is “ What am I living for ?” He maintained that until you can answer this question, you have no business getting married. A soul mate is a goal mate . Marriage is risky. Two people who don ’ t know what they ’ re living for may have a difficult time growing together and staying together over the long run .
#10 : Do I Have Peace of Mind About This Decision ?
To have peace of mind you have to identify and resolve the things that bother you about getting married or about marrying this person . To identify everything that bothers you, you must be ruthlessly honest with yourself and listen to your feelings . If you don ’t have peace of mind about marrying this person , track down the reason. If you are diligent , you' ll discover the reason why you are dragging your feet . And if you can’t track it down through your own efforts, see a competent therapist to help you.
Monday, 12 June 2017
When it comes to achieving success, there’s a lot of focus on the things that you need to add to your life, like learning a new skill or finding a mentor. The thing is, there will also be times when you need to let go of certain things in your life if you want to achieve success, like the following 16 items.
1. Your bad habits.
We all have bad habits and vices - even if it’s sneaking a piece of candy every night after dinner. While there’s nothing wrong with enjoying a temptation occasionally, giving up an unhealthy lifestyle is the first place to start if you want to be successful.
Whether it’s watching too much TV, not eating a balanced diet, not exercising, or only getting a couple hours of sleep each night, these bad habits sap your productivity. And, if you’re not productive, then how can you become successful?
2. Doing everything by yourself.
No matter how intelligent, knowledge, or dedicate you are, you simply can’t do everything on your own. In fact, it’s one of the most common behaviors that block people from becoming successful .Successful individuals realize the importance of delegation. They also know how to surround themselves, whether through hiring or outsourcing, with talented individuals who are more knowledgeable in areas that they’re not so that they can continually move forward.
Successful people don’t point fingers. They don’t blame their economic status, weaknesses, or past failures. They hold themselves accountable. And, instead of making excuses, they focus on what they can do to become more successful.I could have made excuses when I had a bad construction accident in my youth that covered why I couldn't work for months or that my life was over. Instead, I used the time to build a business from my bed while I also learned to walk again.
4. Your SOS (Shiny Object Syndrome).
We’ve all been guilty of chasing that shortcut to success. But, those quick rich schemes never work. Being successful isn’t about making money quickly. It’s having the ability to not get distracted by new ideas, trends, fads, or a quick surplus of cash. It's keeping your head down and working that keeps the distractions away. The successful people are there because they know how to stay focused on the bigger picture.
Every now and then it’s alright to indulge in guilty pleasures. The problem is that we use these bad habits as band-aids, whether it’s drinking, smoking, eating junk, or having sex, to cope with things like stress or sadness. They may provide satisfaction. But, it’s only for the short-term.
Successful people focus on the long-term. They may have some wine after a long week or after sealing a business deal, but they’re not going to drink a bottle of Pinot Noir every night in order to deal with a problem. They fix the problem because that’s going to positively impact their long-term success.
6. Always showing up late.
If you ever visit Lambeau Field, you may notice that the clock outside is deliberately set 15 minutes ahead of the correct time. That’s because of legendary Green Bay Packers head coach Vince Lombardi and ‘Lombardi Time.’ Lombardi expected his coaches and players to arrive 15 minutes early to meetings. Even if they arrived on-time, they were still considered late.
Arriving early to meetings, appointments, etc. ensures that you don’t run late and it gives you the chance to mentally prepare. And, most importantly, it will set the precedent for not being that person who is perpetually late.
Despite the misconception that doing several tasks at once can increase productivity, multitasking is a habit which has been proven to actually detrimental to productivity. This is because when we multitask, our brains are shifting focus from one task to another. As a result, we’re not going to be dedicated - 100% to any particular task.
I have been guilty of this as well because technology makes it so easy to jump between multiple projects, but I realized I was falling farther behind and not doing anything particularly well.Instead, successful people choose a single task where they place their focus -- on one task -- and then move on to the next. You can, of course, use automation to handle certain tasks for yourself, including sending invoices and getting paid .
8. Approval from others.
Don’t waste your time seeking validation from others. It’s time-consuming, drains your energy, and kills your freedom. While you should listen to the advice from those who you trust, like your mentor or spouse, at the end of the decisions you make are yours. It’s ultimately up to you, not anyone else, who will determine your happiness and success. Just make sure these decisions are right for you and then stick to them.
9. Your fixed mindset.
Based on the work of Stanford University psychologist Carol Dweck, people with a fixed mindset believe that traits like intelligence or talent are fixed, which means that they can’t change these traits. As a result, they devote their time in documenting these traits, instead of developing them.
Those with a growth mindset believe that traits can be developed or improved through dedication and hard work. Because of this, they’ll invest in learning and acquire new skills.
10. Hitting snooze.
When you set your alarm, you’re making a commitment. You’re committed to waking up at a certain time so that you can get your day started on the right foot. When you hit “snooze” you’re breaking that commitment. What happens next? You then jump out of bed because you overslept and are now rushing out the door. That’s not exactly how you'll want to start your day.
11. Saying "Yes".
How are you going to be able to accomplish your goals if you’re always saying "yes" to every request from family, friends, or colleagues? Sometimes, even if you feel a bit guilty, you’re going to have to say "no" when you’re asked to help with a certain task or activity.
Let’s be honest here. If you’re a perfectionist, you’ll never be satisfied. I'm entirely guilty of this for the very trait I have for wanting to constantly tweak things, but I've had to learn to "let it go." And, when my daughter came along, I realized children are the best medicine for curing the perfectionist virus.
You’ll keep second-guessing your work and will make a million changes to something that doesn’t need to be changed. If you want to make sure that you remain productive, accept that great is good enough so that you can move on to the next task or project.
13. “Hanging out”.
“Hanging out” with other people is a luxury, like a glass of wine. In other words, it needs to be kept to a minimum. Just “hanging out” on a daily basis is a major waste of time since it distracts you from working towards your goals. BTW, this includes hanging out with the TV. While you don’t have to become a recluse, you should spend time with people who are also working towards similar goals.
14. Trying to be clever.
By all means, be different and innovative. But, don’t try to be too clever. It’s been found that even the smartest of people are prone to making silly mistakes because they’re overconfident, lack emotional intelligence, have a hard time listening to feedback and tend to throw in the towel when they fail.
Never let your intelligence block you from becoming successful. Use those "smarts" to your advantage , and you can be sure that you’re more honest with yourself when it comes to your strengths and weaknesses.
15. Waiting for luck.
Successful people don’t sit around waiting for luck. They go out and work to make their own luck by always being prepared, optimistic, and open-minded. They’re ready to seize the next opportunity when it appears. Abraham Lincoln said, "I will prepare and my day will come." In other words, prepare, study, learn — and the right person or right situation will show up — and you will be in a position to recognize it because you will have prepared for that right time.
16. Spending money carelessly.
Successful people are known for being frugal. When they do spend money, it’s so that they can make even more money . For example, paying off your debts so that money you’ve been paying in interest can now be used to invest in your business or an online class that will enhance your skills -- as opposed to buying tables at a club to impress your freeloading friends.
No one can do everything all at once to get rid of habits that are sucking your productivity, however, you can take on one or two that you want to get rid of. Pick the one that you believe will make your life better the quickest.
Sunday, 11 June 2017
Cheating is one of the things that destroy relationships. It is selfish to cheat on someone you claim you love. But while you can trust yourself to be faithful to your partner, you can’t say for sure they will do the same. People have been disappointed by their partner’s cheating ways.
Whether your partner makes out with someone else or has affairs that last for months or years, being cheated on hurts. But that doesn’t mean your relationship isn’t worth repairing. This choice is yours to make alone.
There will always be people who insist that you leave, but only you can decide what’s right for you. And while infidelity is painful, a relationship does usually get better when people are committed and are working hard to establish a trust and are truly remorseful.
Below are five things you shouldn’t do when your partner cheats.
Don’t ignore the infidelity.
You might be tempted to act as if nothing happened because it feels less painful, but if you do, any resentment you have will likely fester, and what’s more, you won’t address the underlying problems in the relationship. The most important thing is to understand the meaning of the infidelity, because many times, it’s a reflection of what is wrong with your relationship. There are, of course, situations where people are sexually compulsive, but most of the time, cheating really happens in an attempt by the cheater to bring some attention to the problems in the relationship.
Maybe the infidelity really was a one-time moment of weakness, or maybe it was an attempt by the cheater to find something they felt was missing in the relationship. Either way, figuring it out will bring you closer together and make infidelity less likely to happen again in future. You should focus not on making things go back to how they but on building a new, stronger, more fulfilling relationship. It is possible.
Don’t blame yourself.
You have to know that someone cheating on you is not your fault. You are not responsible for it, you didn’t deserve it, and if your partner crossed lines instead of communicating their needs to you lovingly, or breaking off the relationship, that’s on them, not you. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to understand those needs and meet them if you want to salvage the relationship and of course, they have to do the same for you. It’s empowering to come to terms with what happened, why it happened and your role in it too, but don’t beat yourself up over someone else’s bad decision.
Don’t try to get even.
It might make you feel better momentarily to trash your no-good cheating partner on social media, or to destroy their car. Okay, that one might make you feel better for more than a moment. You might even get a rush from cheating on them, too. But evening the score will not solve the underlying problem. It won’t even bring you both to love each other again even if you both later decide to dedicate yourselves to recovering from the violation of one another’s trust. When your partner cheats, it’s important for you both to do what you can to feel like you are on the same side again.
Don’t bring up the infidelity to win unrelated arguments.
The fact that he or she cheated doesn’t give you the right to beat him up endlessly or bring his infidelity out as your trump card every time you get into another argument. You have to be willing to let it go if you want to move on. This means that when you are arguing about how you didn’t tell them you would be out with friends all weekend, you don’t insert a “Well, at least I didn’t cheat on you” into the conversation. That’s not to say that if you are hurting about the infidelity, you shouldn’t bring it up, but acting petty when you know better doesn’t help anyone.
Don’t rush the healing process.
Your partner’s betrayal could hurt in the same ways for the same reasons for a long time. Be patient with yourself as you process, and let your partner know that they need to be patient with you, too. It’s very important for the person who had an affair to understand that their partner is devastated and that it’s difficult to put things back together.
There are going to be a lot of questions asked, and sometimes it’s going to be the same questions over and over again. Yes, you could eventually realize that you are not able to let go of what happened and that you need to move on from the relationship, but in the meantime, don’t rush yourself.
If your partner is getting frustrated with answering the same questions and having the same conversations, question whether they are really as committed to regaining your trust as they say they are. It might be time to put their things in a box to the left.
You may think you're the master of your finances, but why do you come up short on cash every month? Unless someone else is pilfering money from your checking account , you might be a victim of "lifestyle creep."
An all-too-common conundrum, "lifestyle creep" happens when you gradually start spending a little more than you should, before suddenly realizing your habits have spiraled way out of control. "It tends to happen slowly and in small increments, so we don't notice it," certified financial planner Ross Anderson told Mic by email. "Your regular bottle of wine might move from $5 to $9, or you might frequent the coffee shop a few more times a week. On the surface it never feels like enough to derail your finances, but it adds up when left unchecked."
How can you put a stop to creep behavior? One way is to treat saving as a priority, like a bill you have to pay, Anderson suggested. You should also keep an eye out for these typical offenders:
1. Living like a celebrity when you get a raise.
Remember the saying, "more money, more problems"? Making more money is great, but it can lead to more problems if you spend all those extra funds. "The big mistake I see young people make is assuming they can save for the future later," certified financial planner Carolyn McClanahan
told CNBC in November. "But before you know it, you're 50 and you don't have that much time to save for your future."
Of course you should treat yourself after a well-earned raise, but once you've scored that trophy, roll that additional money into an investment account. By investing extra money while you're young, you won't have to scramble when you're older, McClanahan advised.
2. Paying unnecessary late fees.
One fee you can definitely avoid is a late payment charge on a credit card. Late fees can cost up to $27 the first time and up to $35 for each additional late payment, NerdWallet reported.
Credit card companies can be forgiving if it's your first time missing the payment cutoff, so long as you call and ask to have the fee waived.
But don't forget to be polite when asking for a fee waiver. "Probably the biggest thing aside from your history is being nice to the card rep on the line," Michael Moeser, director of payments, retail and small business at Javelin Strategy & Research, told Creditcards.com . "He or she usually has some leeway, and if you're a rude, you're much less likely to get help."
And next time, opt for automatic payments so you can set it and forget it.
3. Paying out-of-network ATM fees.
You need cash fast and the closest ATM is owned by another bank. Eh, why not? They only charge $3 to use it. While paying $3 doesn't seem like a big deal, you might not realize your bank can impose its own fee for using that out-of-network ATM, Bankrate found, which could put you closer to $5 per ATM trip — an amount that can really add up if you make it a habit.
So, what's the best way to get cash? Aside from using an in-network ATM, you can usually grab extra cash during a point of sale transaction at many retailers for no extra cost.
4. Going out to lunch every day.
Unless your company is footing the bill for lunch, going out every day to grab a burger can cost you $20 or more a week, USA Today reported — or more than $1,000 a year, which doesn't take into account the occasions on which you buy a coworker lunch or treat your team to a round of drinks at happy hour. If you don't want to go cold turkey, start slow by cutting restaurant lunches to two or three times per week, or only going out when you have something to celebrate.
5. Keeping memberships and subscriptions you don't use.
It may sound like a pain to make the effort to cancel subscriptions or memberships you no longer use, but
eliminating wasted expenses could save you a pretty penny. For example, a gym membership costs roughly $60 a month, USA Today reported, but 67% of such memberships aren't used regularly. Unless you're a gym rat, you could save around $720 a year by cutting it out. If you find yourself losing interest in a monthly wine or makeup subscription, re-evaluate to make sure it's something you want or cancel and find something else you'll use.
6. Engaging in retail therapy.
"Retail therapy" can buoy your
emotions when you're celebrating or soothe your woes when you're down in the dumps — but while buying the occasional small trinket probably won't hurt you, chronic impulse shopping can rise to the level of addiction, according to researchers at Indiana University . In fact, being an emotional shopper can ultimately make you feel worse when the credit card bill arrives or your bank account balance dwindles.
One way to halt your shopping addiction is to ask a friend to hold you accountable. "Having to account to someone else for what you spent, what you bought, etc. is sobering," Dr. Gretchen Kubacky told
GoBankingRates . "Choose someone you trust, of course." If you feel as though you cannot curb this behavior easily, talk to a therapist.
Another trick: Recognize when you're feeling too emotional and stay out of the mall — and away from Amazon! — until you feel calm.
7. Stealing from your emergency fund.
It starts innocently enough: You see a hot pair of boots but you're short about $50, so why not just "borrow" a bit from your emergency fund and eventually pay it back? The problem with this scenario is that while you intend to put back the money, it's unlikely you will. The next thing you know, you've dipped into the account so many times that your savings are practically depleted.
Avoid taking money from your emergency fund by moving it to an interest-bearing savings or money market account that's not so easy to access. If a true emergency ever arises, you'll be happy you did.
Drinking just a couple beers throughout the week may be hurting your health more than you think: Even moderate drinking can damage your brain, new research from the University of Oxford in the U.K. suggests.
In the study, researchers recruited 550 people, tracked their weekly alcohol intake, and measured their performance on brain tasks over a 30-year period. Then, they performed MRIs on them to analyze their brain structure.
They discovered that people who drank moderately—14 to 21 units of alcohol per week—were three times as likely to have deterioration in the right side of their hippocampus than those who abstained from alcohol. That’s important, since that area of the brain affects your memory and spatial navigational skills. Atrophy there is also a marker of Alzheimer’s disease, the researchers say.
Here’s what that means for your pub visits: Each unit contains eight grams of alcohol, and a standard drink is roughly 14 grams of alcohol. That’s 12 ounces of regular, 5 percent alcohol beer, or 5 ounces of 12 percent alcohol wine. So that means drinking between 8 and 12 beers a week would put you in that risk category.
People who drank more—at least 17 beers a week—showed even more deterioration in that brain region. They were nearly six times as likely to show atrophy in their hippocampus than those who didn’t drink at all.
Interestingly, there was no link between light drinkers and brain deterioration, showing that there doesn’t seem to be any brain benefit to drinking just a little bit.
Plus, the more alcohol people drank, the poorer their density of white matter—a part of the brain necessary for cognitive function—and the greater their decline in specific language skills.
Alcohol and its byproducts are toxic to nerve cells in your brain, and can cause structural damage in important areas of your brain like the hippocampus that are used in daily mental functions, the researchers say.
This suggests that even drinking within the recommended alcohol guidelines—no more than two drinks a day for men—may still contribute to some brain problems.
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You’ve probably heard some people brag that pot makes s*x feel amazing, and you’ve probably also written them off as total stoners who have zero clue what they’re talking about. But new data suggests they’re on to something.
A new survey from HelloMD, a California-based digital healthcare platform for the cannabis industry, found that 14 percent of survey participants use pot to increase their libido or enhance their s*x life. Not only that, the survey found that women are slightly more likely to say they do this.
It’s worth pointing out that this was a survey of 1,400 people with medical marijuana cards to find out what they use weed for, and not the general population, but still…
Women’s health expert Jennifer Wider, M.D., isn’t shocked that some people are using pot as a s*x-enhancer. “Some people report that it can elevate their mood and reduce inhibitions, similar to alcohol, and can stimulate the desire for s*xual activity,” she says.
New York City s*x therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D., says pot can help lower anxiety in many people, which can then help with arousal and climax issues. “I work with men, who have had more success with pot than Viagra for maintaining erection,” he says.
However, pot can have the opposite effect on some people. “Marijuana can have different effects on a person’s libido,” says Wider. “Some people experience a drop in libido and lack of ability to get aroused.”
Since you’re probably wondering, people also said they used pot to relax (shocker), elevate their mood, help them sleep, and as a substitute for alcohol.
Bottom line: Just like your friend who turns into a dance floor ninja only after tequila, pot can affect people in very different ways. If you’re looking for a libido-booster but have never been into the stuff, now is probably not the time to pick up a pot habit. But if you’re already a marijuana fan and find that it revs you up in the sack, well, it’s good to know you’re not the only one.
Friday, 9 June 2017
Have you ever heard the saying ‘Breakfast is the most important meal of the day’? For most of us, this was something that we may have thought our mothers made up to keep us from going hungry or eating that piece of cake before school. But, the truth is that mom was right! Over the years, scientific research has proven that there are a number of health-related benefits associated with eating a healthy, well-balanced breakfast before you head out the door each morning. While making any type of breakfast will require a few more minutes out of your morning routine, there are plenty of great reasons why you want to take this time to eat. Take a look at a few of the reasons why you shouldn’t skip out on breakfast:
Breakfast can help to improve concentration and focus throughout the day – Thinking on an empty stomach isn’t easy. When you start your day off with a solid meal your stomach and brain don’t have to think about the first meal you can get your hands on, instead you can focus on work, school or anything that is more important.
Breakfast provides you with energy needed to partake in physical activity – Whether or not you hit the gym in the morning, you need some type of fuel to help push your body through until lunchtime. Since you have already gone about 12 hours without a meal (since dinner presumably), breakfast is the fuel you need to start your day of physically and mentally.
Breakfast can help control hunger throughout the day – As previously mentioned, when you eat breakfast in the morning it can help to curb your hunger throughout the day. This not only helps you have a good day, but it keeps you away from the snack machine. As many of you know, hitting the snack machine or even the drive thru line at a fast food restaurant can break any type of diet you have and lead to extra weight gain that most of us don’t necessarily need.
Breakfast can help boost your metabolism – As you catch much needed sleep at night, your metabolism naturally slows. It remains that way until you can jump start it with a healthy breakfast so you can burn calories earlier in the day, rather than waiting for lunch to start burning them. A faster metabolism also means you are more likely to lose weight. That’s why eating a healthy breakfast is always a crucial part of any diet you will part take in.
While these are just a few of the reasons why you would certainly want to eat a healthy breakfast, there are plenty of other valid reasons to wake up ten minutes earlier for a healthy meal. However, remember that not all breakfasts are the same and to truly get the best out of your morning meal you have to eat smart, which isn’t a piece of cake and a glass of milk like you used to have in high school.